Just the other day, our 5 and 3 year old boys had been playing happily for a while…. until they had a disagreement. I’ll spare you the details of what led to that lol, but the summary is that my 5yr old got mad at my 3yr old, and made it very clear to him.
And then it happened. My 3yr old hit my 5yr old – smack! Right on the head. I rushed to the scene, and my 5 year old was naturally very upset. Sorry big guy, I said to him. Are you ok? Pele! After calming him down and making sure he was ok, I grabbed my 3yr old by the hand, walking quickly down the hallway, very annoyed.
We got to the end of the hallway and the interrogation began lol. Why did you hit your brother on the head? I demanded. “Because he was mad at me!” came his answer. I certainly wasn’t expecting that answer. What? You hit him on the head because he was mad at you? oh boy… 
lol. You can’t bully your brother into not being mad at you, I gently explained to him. When someone gets mad at you, you should ask them why they’re not happy with you if you don’t know – then tell them you’re sorry if you need to. You can’t force a person into “not being mad at you”. Ok? “Ok Mummy”, he said, with his best “I’m sorry I did that” look 
.
I told him to face the wall for a few minutes, and to think some more about what he had done. By the way, in case you’re not familiar with the concept of “facing the wall” – it is probably the African version of a time out lol – You pretty much ask your child to stand (or sit) facing a wall, and they can’t look at anything except a blank wall for a few minutes. They absolutely hate it 
. And it works – they are usually very repentant at the end of it lol! So anyway, after my little guy’s time out was done, he yelled “I won’t do that again!” – And I asked him to go apologize to his brother.
“I’m sorry 
“… He said to his big brother. Just to give you a little background – Typically, when the kids apologize to each other, the response from the offended party when all becomes well and good is “That’s ok”. But this time, instead of hearing my 5yr old just say “that’s ok”, I heard him say – “That’s ok, I forgive you”!
My 3yr old and I were sooo happy lol.
That’s great that you forgave your brother – I said to my 5yr old. I’m so proud of you both! You know what my 5yr old’s reply was? “Mummy, only a bad guy wouldn’t forgive…!” And there are no bad guys in this house, we all agreed. My goodness – I was so touched ! I was over the moon with excitement – the kids were beginning to really grasp the concept of forgiveness and how important it is to forgive. I know we all still have a lot to learn about many things, but I am thrilled that we are all on the right path, by God’s grace !
Later on, I started thinking some more about what he had said. It really boils down to that, doesn’t it? We’ve heard a variation of this before and we will probably hear it again. But it’s so true – If we want to be true followers of Christ, obeying our Father, imitating Him in all that we do, we will forgive others, we won’t hold a grudge (so help us God), and we will seek to be at peace with everyone we are connected with. We will always do all we can to seek, pursue, and maintain peace. Don’t get me wrong, just as I am learning, forgiveness doesn’t mean you should not have healthy boundaries (and that’s a topic for a different post). By all means, we should have healthy boundaries in our relationships – it’s just the wise thing to do.
However, we can’t on the one hand be going to church, praising God and saying we are followers of God, when on the other hand we are holding a grudge against others and not extending the hand of forgiveness to them. So like what these scriptures say, right? —
Colossians 3:13 “Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” (NIV)
Luke 6:36, 37c “Be merciful, just as your Father is merciful. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.” (NIV)
3 John 1:11 “Dear friend… Follow only what is good. Remember that those who do good prove that they are God’s children, and those who do evil prove that they do not know God.” (NLT)
Psalm 34:14
“Turn away from evil and do good. Search for peace, and work to maintain it.” (NLT)
Romans 12:18 “Do all that you can to live in peace with everyone.” (NLT)
May we always remember to run very far away from evil – which certainly includes harboring unforgiveness. May we instead always run after good, to “seek peace and pursue it”, and to “do all we can to live in peace with everyone” (including and most importantly, our heavenly father!). May we always remember that “only a bad guy would not forgive” 
, and there are no bad guys in this house, correct? ?
May we always remember the reason for this immeasurable and indescribable gift from God – Jesus Christ – the reason we celebrate Christmas. May we continually bless others (and ourselves) with the gift of forgiveness and letting go; and simultaneously bless God, our Father, with the gift of obedience, as we continually do what he wants us to do…always by His Grace and His ever present help.
May every area of our lives ever be a sweet and pleasing aroma unto God. Amen!!!
If there is someone you need to forgive, if there is any grudge or hurt you are holding on to, if there is anything you need to let go of, please, please, by God’s grace and strength and help, please…DO IT NOW!! Don’t wait. Just do it. Please! Let’s imitate God. Let’s live lives that please God. Let’s let go of the poison of unforgiveness… Don’t be a bad guy, please, forgive ! If you need help letting go of a terrible hurt, go to God in prayer. Ask God to help you – God will not abandon us and not help us when we need Him the most. But please, start taking those steps towards “seeking peace”. So help us all God – Amen!
***Dec 22 Update: I wanted to include this, it came up during our conversations (below) yesterday. Sometimes after you’ve forgiven a person, something might just bring the hurts back to your memory and it feels like the hurt is starting all over again – you might wonder – have I truly forgiven them? I think that we can (and should) make the choice to forgive and move on, but really – the healing process may sometimes take a little while to be complete. But God is certainly more than able to see us through! In the past, when I remembered stuff that brought pain, I immediately prayed and tried to shift my focus on to God and His word. Tried to think about the big picture. Over time, I found that I stopped getting those feelings when I remembered…I felt healed! God is certainly more than able to see us through – please, be encouraged!***
Do you have any helpful insights on forgiveness and letting go? Scriptures? Experiences? Questions? Comments? Please share so that we can all keep learning from each other. Thank you very much!
MERRY CHRISTMAS!:)! HAPPY NEW YEAR in ADVANCE !!
Wishing you much joy, much peace, and God’s ever sweet presence in 2011 and beyond!
“The LORD bless you and keep you; The LORD make His face shine upon you, And be gracious to you; The LORD lift up His countenance upon you, And give you peace.” [Amen!!!] (Numbers 6: 24 -26 – NKJV)
Much Love & Blessings to you and yours,
Bomi Jolly
Bomi, this is such a great read. It really challenged me to consider my own relationships and face any lingering forgiveness issues I might have. Most Christians know that we should forgive but it is one of the hardest things to do when someone has really hurt you badly. But, just as you have pointed out so well, it is a commandment and we have to try our best with God helping us. Have a great week and Merry Christmas to you and your family!!
You so often hit on exactly what I need (but don’t always want) to hear! I know that I still harbor some unforgiveness regarding my husband’s unemployment and need to instead let it go and trust God to make it right in His gracious and merciful way. Have a wonderful blessed Christmas and safe travels!
really nice. we shld all learn 2 forgive. av a wonderful christmas 2
@Feyi – I completely agree – I think most Christians know, but it can be so hard to forgive when you’ve been really really hurt
! But nobody ever said Christianity was always easy, right? I definitely agree with you…and it can be done, with God’s help and grace – With God, things that seem impossible suddenly become very possible! Thank you very much Feyi! Merry Christmas to you and your family too:)!! Much love to you and yours:)!
@Jane – Hallos:)! I am very glad you found this useful – We are certainly still praying and trusting along with you! I am hopeful and I am really looking forward to hearing the good news…amen! Thanks for the kind wishes:)! I hope you have a wonderful time with family this festive season!! Much love to you all!
@Folu – Thank you very very much – God bless you..Have a wonderful, blessed, joyful, peaceful and very Merry Christmas!!! Much love to you and your family!
@Everyone – I’d like to say a Huge THANK YOU to everyone that has responded to my plea and voted to support Grand Rapids Michigan in the Fight for Hunger project so far…. I just visited the page and I have seen your handiwork…THANK YOU, THANK YOU, THANK YOU…from the bottom of my heart…THANK YOU!!! Please keep the votes coming in, thanks so much! If you haven’t gotten the chance to do it yet – please, it’s at:
http://fightinghunger.walmart.com/city/Grand-Rapids-Wyoming-MI
please click on “like” to support the hungry folks in the community of Grand Rapids, Michigan – Thanks so very much once again:)!!! Have a blessed rest of the week!
Bomi, Another most excellent message!:)
Thanks for sharing….Good to see Folarin yesterday!
Bless you guys this Christmas and always!:)
Love you!
Hugs and Kisses
Aunty Ayo!:)
Great one, Jolly ‘Bomi…
Forgiveness is a key thing. Besides it being a label of a true follower of Christ, it goes further to relieve us of ‘extra luggages’ of grief.
I learnt my lesson the hard way, but today I’m grateful I learnt all the same… http://www.facebook.com/note.php?note_id=10150191039725425
May the Lord continue to open the eyes of little ones to his ways and instil in them the fear of God amen.Once again a fab message from a fab friend and Sis. May the Lord bless our homes amen x x
@Aunty Ayo – Thank you thank you thank you!! Folarin told me he saw you and I made a mental note to drop you a line SOON:)!! So good to hear from you! Merry Christmas to you and your family… Sending Mega Hugs, Kisses and Lots of Love to you and the fam
!!!
@Femi – Yes! I couldn’t agree more… forgiveness spares us from a lot of baggage now, plus regrets (and grief, as you’ve mentioned), down the road! Thanks so much for sharing that important lesson in your note – I read it, you are certainly on point! I’m so sorry you had to go through that. Thanks again for sharing! God bless you much much:)!!
@Bunmi – Amen, Amen and Amen…. ! Thanks so much dear friend and sister. Amen to your prayers, May God continually be the center of our homes and our lives amen. Thank you again…Much love:)!!!
Thanks for this powerful message its God sent. Its not been easy for me to forgive whoever murdered my dad & move on. Even though I have forgiven I can’t forget what happened but im trying to find solace in God where I know that i can find it.
I have clicked on the page of walmart feeding the hungry I pray God provides food for those hungry in ur state & everyone all over the world that need food too. May God grant us all our heart desires and answer all our prayers & make the new yr a great year of supernatural blessings and breakthrough in Jesus name. Amen.
Weldone sweetie. Well said. Don’t wanna be a bad guy either.I forgive all dose dat av offended me and I ask dat all dose av offended forgive me as well. So help us God!!
Merry Xmas n Happy new year Bomi. Love u loads
Wow.. Yes, I definitely believe in the message of forgiveness.. all religions teach the same thing.. Sometimes, it is very difficult for me to forgive.. even after I say, ‘yes I forgive you’, if I remember the incident, I get angry again.. working on it..
@Kristy – I am so so so sorry to hear about your dad
. I am really sorry, and I cannot even begin to imagine… but I am really glad to hear that this helped, and I am glad that you finding solace in God – You will certainly be in my thoughts and prayers. So sorry once again 
. Sending you lots of big {{HUGS}} and loads and loads of love. Thanks for the kind prayers Kristy, and for supporting GR in the hunger project! Amen…!!! Thank you K 
!
@Kinkimo – yes o… like u, I don’t want to be a bad guy lol! So help us all God…..Amen. Thank you Kinkimo! Wishing you all the very best of God’s blessings this season and beyond..much love
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@Asifa – Thanks a lot Asifa!:)! I certainly know what u mean…sometimes something might just bring the hurts back to your memory and it feels like the hurt is starting all over again – you wonder – have I truly forgiven them? I personally think that we can (and should) make the choice to forgive and move on, but really – the healing process may sometimes take a little while to be complete. But God is certainly more than able to see us through. In the past, when I remembered stuff that brought pain, I immediately prayed and tried to shift my focus on to God and His word. Tried to think about the big picture. Over time, I found that I stopped getting those feelings when I remembered…I felt completely healed! Like you said, we will keep working on it, God helping us. Thank you very much Asifa!!
Happy new year in advance!!! xxx
Another lovely piece from u girlie. Thanks for bringing this timeless truth home again. Merry christmas to you and may the joy that the birth of Christ brought to the world be in abundance in ur heart and home as we celebrate it again, amen.
Nice one, thanks for sharing; I don’t wanna be a bad guy so I’ll take the time out to reflect during this season in case there is anyone I might have anything (even the slightest ‘beef’) against and ‘release myself’. from any grudge
Can we have JollyNotes posts more often?
Merry Christmas!!
Bommmmmii! This one has been sitting STILL on my thinking chair. Some reaaaall food for thought o! Forgiveness is such a strong emotion, and to me, fourth only to love (…. after hope and faith). 1 Cor 13:13.
Love you much and have a splendid Christmas my in-law!
@Oyinda – Thank you very much sis! Amen…! Amen! Amen! Thank you much much for the beautiful prayer…Enjoy, cheers to many many more celebrations in much peace, much joy, much love!
! xxx
@HexyDre – lol @ “slightest beef” and “releasing yourself” – I feel you bro:)!! I would LOVE to write Jollynotes more often – unfortunately my current schedule does not permit me to
! But I am certainly still grateful for this opportunity – Thank you much much Hexydre!! Love to the family!!!
@Nnekaaaaaa lol!!! loved that by the way, could just imagine a big smile going along with the “bomiiiiii”! lol! yes, please let it stay right there, don’t let that “food for thought” get away lol!:)! But I certainly agree with that line of thought – I don’t think the importance of forgiveness can be overemphasized. Thanks Nneka!! Sending mega loads of all sorts of goodness your way!:)! xxx
Thanks. This message came @ about the right time. May almighty GOD in his infinite mercy bless you and your household.
thanks Bomi…for this wonderful message….I prayed the prayer…i needed to! God bless you dear!
the first piece and I’m really impressed, wow! nice one, I really learnt a lot, continue in the good work and please keep giving more. Thanks.
@Ambrose, Toyin, Ohambele – Thanks so much for taking the time to read and also to share – much appreciated! It is always wonderful to know that a Jolly Note has been helpful, that it came at the right time. I am very thankful to God:). Thanks for letting me know – and thanks for your very kind prayers and wishes – Amen!! Have a very blessed rest of the week – May you ever feel God close to you! God bless you all… Much love to you and yours! Thank you
Hmm I have to face the wall
As all always, a great read, funny,heartwarming,practical, down to earth, with a next door neighbour feel and inspirational. I feel like i can recognise you and ur kids. God bless you. Compliments of the season to you and yours.
Once again Bomi tanx,
Forgiveness used to be a very difficult thing for me to do, but when reciting the Lord’s prayer and i got to that part in Matt 6:12, I always felt guilty becos i knew i was still holding grudges but since i started practicing that verse, i found out that I have been putting myself under bondage and unnecessary stress. Now I have learnt to overlook things and forget them, and this step has definitely made me to become more stress free and open minded.
Ur note has indeed struck another cord in my heart. U are such a wonderful and insightful person, May God continue to give u more knowledge.
Wishin you and ur family a great xmas and a wonderful new year. May all your dreams and aspiration come to fruitfulness in the coming year.
God’s protection upon u, ur children and ur hubby.
@Seun – LOL @ “I have to face the wall”!!! Oh boy…lol! But yep sometimes we adults certainly do need to face the wall too! Well I hope your time out is done, and I hope you’re able to say – “I’m sorry” , or “I won’t do that again” , depending on why you faced the wall
! lol. Thanks a lot for taking the time to read and comment Seun! Enjoy the rest of your week, Merry Christmas, God bless you!:)!
@Sofiya – aww thank you thank you thank you for your very kind words!! I feel very blessed to have the opportunity to meet so many wonderful people like you through JollyNotes! I often feel like we’re all in the same room chatting away! Thank God. Thank you Sofiya, I really hope we can all meet you some day=)! That would really be awesome. God bless you too Sofiya, Compliments of the season to you and yours, I hope you have a wonderful Christmas, New Year and beyond – filled with lots of love and wonderful memories:)!! xxx
@Titi – Thanks so much for sharing! And for reminding us of the classic line from The Lord’s prayer – most versions say “Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors”! When I was little we used to say “Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us” in Sunday school (I still say it now
) – will try to look up that version too!
But the message is certainly clear – if we are not forgiving others, or not showing mercy – why should we expect God to do the same for us? Thanks again for sharing what has worked for you Titi! And thank you much much for your very kind words and prayers too – AMEN and amen. Thank you very much Titi!! I pray the same for you!! God bless you!! Sending mega hugs and smiles your way=)!!
bomi, i love this , this issue of forgiveness is very real to me , at first when people hurt me , i withdraw and stuff the emotions in , but it became highly dangerous, now am learning to talk about my feelings and move on with my life , instead harboring hatred.
Bomi , thank you for reminding me to forgive always.
Out of the mouth of babes! I love learning thru children because their hearts are so pure. They sure know how to minister to their parents for sure.
I started this year strong, full of love and forgiveness. Toward the end I could see that things are beginning to pile on top of me. On reflection I’d realized that i may have taken my eyes off God just a little bit and start focusing on the wrong things.
So what i did was to de-throne Buky and put God back in His rightful place, Amen.
It is easier to forgive when we keep our eyes on Him.
He who did not spare His own Son, but delivered Him over for us all, how will He not also with Him freely give us all things? Rom 8:32
Thank you for this timely piece, may God continue to bless your home and family.
Thanks for being a dear friend and a sister. Your words brings such comfort to the weary and hope to the hopeless.
Wishing you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year ahead.
http://bukville.com/2010/12/11/are-you-ready-for-2011/
Just visiting your site for the first time today and absolutely loving it! Well done…
And yes, unforgiveness blocks God’s ears to our cries. Lord help us…
Well done and Happy Holidays to you and your family…
http://temiville.wordpress.com/
Just visiting your site for the first time today and absolutely loving it! Well done…
And yes, unforgiveness blocks God’s ears to our cries. Lord help us…
Well done and Happy Holidays to you and your family…
http://temiville.wordpress.com/
@Tolulope – Thanks for sharing! Thanks for reminding us to learn and practice “talking about our feelings”, instead of harboring hatred… a simple lack of communication can so often cause much unneeded drama…! Harboring hatred and unforgiveness on the other hand can only bring pain. Thank you again Tolulope! Stay blessed.
@Buky – Thanks so so much! For sharing the scripture – reminding us that God will not abandon us with our struggles with unforgiveness or anything else – He is more than willing (and able!) to help us. And also reminding us to put God in His rightful place, always – absolutely, I couldn’t agree more! Thank you for your very thoughtful words, Buky! I am blessed for the opportunity to meet, share with, learn from, and fellowship with people like you – even though we might sometimes be hundreds or even thousands of miles apart. Thank you Buky, and Thank you all:)! Merry Christmas & Happy new year to you and yours too:)!!
@Temi – Thank you very much for visiting, so glad you found Jollynotes, glad you are loving it:)! yippee:)! Thank you Temi. It’s very nice to “meet” you, hope to see you around a lot more:)! Happy Holidays to you and yours too, God bless!
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Your stories are always loaded
I have not been very constant online since I’ve been in Nigeria but my internet is good today and I saw your message. This is a great message and I am blessed. Forgiveness is not an easy concept at any age and like any part of this Christian life, I take it daily and pray for grace. Thanks for sharing and also the link for the charity, I have liked.
I wish you and your family a marvellous and blessed Christmas and New Year.
Great site. A lot of useful information here. I’m sending it to some friends!
@Kehinde – Doing the “happy dance” lol!! Thank you very much!! Merry Christmas to you and your family…God bless:)!
@Myne – Extremely pleased to hear that this has been a blessing to you…! Yes, forgiveness is one of those things that is always “easier said that done” – at any age. Thanks for reminding us to “take it daily and pray for grace”… always a useful thing to do! Thanks a lot Myne! Much appeciated. Have a “fantastically blessed” Christmas and New Year:)! Thank you!
@CST – Thank you very much!:)! Merry Christmas to you and yours…God bless:)!
The remarkable lesson in the whole story for me is: how so easily easily easily he forgave his younger brother- he didnt first fume,queried him, cautioned him, threatened(as I would have done)… afterwhich would come forgiveness… ; it was just so simple so surreal so childlike so Christlike so worth pursuing all of one’s Christian and earthly life. I believe that makes God excited about us, because HE FIRST SHOWED IT. Thanks Bomi, thanks for sharing and thanks more for helping me add another important line on my life principle list! Regards to your children.
Bomi, great post.
Too many of us are unwittingly weighing ourselves down, by carrying around baggage of unforgiveness, from year to year, which clearly grieves the Lord, as illustrated in the parable in Matthew 18.
I agree when you state, ‘forgiving someone is easier said than done’, but Praise the Lord, it can be done, with humbleness of heart and with God’s grace.
One thing that always keeps me grounded is when I try to look at situations through the eyes of God, the fact that God has forgiven me of so much, who am I not to forgive others!
Once I have forgiven, I feel so free!
God Bless you more.
Bomi, its been a while I’ve been on this site and now that I’m here, I’ve got to say that you didn’t leave me dissapointed. Your inspirational notes are so true to heart, I am almost reeling… and that one can learn lessons from our Heavenly Father through a 5 yr old and a 3 yr old…wow! Forgiveness…if a 5 yr old child gets it, then why can’t we, older ones, understand the concept? Thanks for sharing Bomi. Have a blessed 2011!
@ Olabode – Thank you so much for sharing! I think many of us can relate with that – yes, we want to forgive – but that forgiveness will only come after much querying, cautioning, etc etc! lol. It is indeed refreshing to be able to forgive so sp easily… reminds me of the scripture that says we should forgive a person – not 7 times, not 7×7 times, but 70 x 7 times! In short, as many times as necessary… it’s great to be reminded of these things. Thanks a lot! Warm regards to you and yours too… Have a blessed day:)!
@Carole – Thanks so much. I couldn’t agree more with your statement – “God has forgiven me of so much, who am I not to forgive others!” Also, God has given me so many second (and third, fourth, fifth, etc…) chances, who am I not to show mercy and give others a second chance? Thanks again Carole – Stay blessed and in God’s love:)!
@Lara – Yay, it’s so great to “see” you on here! So glad to hear this was good for you – Thanks so much Lara – I pray every day this concept will continually be reinforced into us, until it becomes second nature for all of us – so help us God:)! Amen. Thanks again. Have a very blessed 2011 and beyond:)!!!
good stuff. Happy new year!
Good stuff..Forgiveness will never cease to b important in as much as we come in contact with pple all d days of our lives.some pple even need to forgive themselves..God help us all..n May He continue to bless u n ur beautiful family.
Dear Bomi, this piece is good for the season. Although it is difficult to forgive but I believe we can if we ask God to strenghten us. No one does not sin so if we forgive God will forgive us. I pray that many will be blessed through this piece ijn.
@Anonymous – Thank you much much!:)! Glad it was good for you! Happy New Year to you too – Wishing you all the very best of God’s blessings in 2011 and beyond… Thanks again:)!
@Wumi – Absolutely – I agree – Forgiveness is an age old concept and it will continue to be a relevant and very important concept, as long as we are relating with other people… and sometimes we need to forgive ourselves so we can move forward too. Thanks so much Wumi for your very kind prayers – Amen. I pray for God’s blessings and constant presence with you and yours in 2011 and beyond too! Thank you.
@Johnson – Thanks a lot for those important and useful reminders! Indeed, He is always there to strengthen and see us through. He will not abandon us when we most need Him… I too, as always, echo your prayers that many will be blessed through this. Thank you for those very thoughtful prayers! Happy new Year to you , God bless you much much! Enjoy your weekend.
Lovely Bomi Hmmmm May we learn to say those words out loud in our hearts…”I forgive u”
I really enjoyed and learned a lot from your post. I am hoping to start a personal family and I have been looking for a working guide then I miraculously found your website.
Please keep it up and note that there are future family men and women that are looking up to jollynotes.
Good luck and God’s blessings upon you and your family.
Happy New Year dear Bomi. Thanks so much for all your insprirational messages. Its a simple message, but so important for us to live fulfilled and happy lives, and isn’t it amazing that God chooses the children to teach us such valuable lessons.
Much love and wishing you a wonderful and blessed 2011.
@S-Ayo – Amen!!! May we learn to say those words deep down in our hearts,and if necessary say them again and again and again, as we are commanded. Thank you very much sis!! xxx
@Harry – Thank you so much, I am ecstatic to hear that you have found JollyNotes so useful – Thank God!:)! I’m doing a little happy dance here too lol. Thank God, and thank you again for your kind encouraging words. Hope to see you around here again soon! Stay blessed.
@S-Yetty – Happy New Year to you too, dear sis! Thank you for taking the time to read them, I am so glad to hear they have been good for you=)! I couldn’t agree more on how simple this is yet how crucial it is for us to live fulfilled lives. He is truly amazing=). Much love to you and yours too… I hope you have a fantastic 2011 and beyond! Thank you:)!!
Found your site on del.icio.us today and really liked it.. I bookmarked it and will be back to check it out some more later.
Forgiveness is the one thing that I had difficulty with before—it took me a long time to learn it but with God’s grace, I was able to. NOw it’s easy for me to forgive because I just lift up the pain other people caused me to God. It’s not my job to avenge, and it’s more difficult to bear grudges than anger anyway—-so I rely on God’s sweet revenge—which means more blessings to me.
But there are some people who cannot forgive even if the other party already asked sincere forgiveness. This happened to me twice—-to my friends…I didn’t even know what wrong did I do but yet I ask apologies and even gave peace offerings—but they are still so mad , bitter and unforgiving to me.
I hve always been quiet whenever i get offended,which leads me to seek revenge.but reading this message has changed my perspective and made me a new being.tanx n God bless u
@CG – Welcome to Jollynotes.com:)! Thanks a lot for bookmarking the site – really glad to hear it has been good for you:)! I look forward to “seeing” you again in the future:)! Thanks again, Stay blessed!
@Bingkee – Thank God for God…Thank God for his grace! His grace is sufficient for us, and I trust that he will continue to guide us, teach us, direct us in all that we do. I pray that our lives will always display his goodness and his love. We keep learning every day!:)! thank you for sharing B:)! God bless.
@Ama – Thanks for bringing up that important reminder of being careful not to sit and stew over offenses… better to speak out in love than to sit and brood and conjure up ways to get even. Thanks Ama and I am really glad to hear this helped. Stay blessed!:)!