Romans 12:18 says “If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone.”

First, I believe we should try our very best to remain at peace and to have a good relationship with everyone, in all that we do. But remember, it takes two… you can only do what depends on you, you can only play your own part and leave the rest in God’s hands. As long as you do whatever depends on you, your conscience is clear….

The other thing is – Please remember that sometimes, after people have been hurt, they may actually have forgiven you, just like you have forgiven them…but it’s possible they’re just not ready for that kind of relationship quite yet (i.e. regular phone calls, hanging out regularly,etc). Sometimes some people need some time even after they’ve forgiven you, to get back into the way things used to be. When it appears that this is the case, please try to respect their wishes – with no hard feelings. I understand that it may be disappointing, but be patient and don’t push them – they may just need a little more time.

Finally – I think there are definitely situations in which we have to accept that a person’s season in our life is over. Sometimes, even though it is painful, we have to be willing to let them go, always in love, and always in peace… and always trusting that God knows best.

I am confident God will continue to teach us all how to love, how to forgive, and how to live at peace, just the way He wants us to.

Thanks again for stopping by Omolola. I hope this is helpful…If you have any other questions/comments, please feel free to post them here, or you can also send an email if you prefer.

I am really glad this article also helped strengthen the resolve that was placed in your heart by God. Yes, it really is not worth trying to get back, get even, or inflict hurts on those who have hurt us, or on others. It is not at all healthy and who wants to be stuck in the mean, vicious cycle?

I know God will continue to help us to depend on him 100%, and to trust him to heal us, to see the good in people even when we’ve been hurt, and to become more and more like Him.

Thanks again Olutope! God bless.

There is no point living life as a cynical and negative person.

I am passing through a situation, where people who appear to have my back actually sidelined me. I was hurt and bitter and it affected my attitude towards them and others.

I have been able to press past the hurt, the shame and bitterness through the help of the Holy Spirit…also reflecting on this article further strengthens my resolve to let go, move on and become wiser, stronger and better instead of choosing to be bitter and mean.

I only have one life to live…why wouldn’t I choose to live it happy, joyful, hopeful and loving to others? I know it’s hard choice considering that sometimes the pain from disappointments drives one crazy to take irrational actions that will inflict the same hurt one feels on to others…but it’s too much price to pay for being stuck in the vicious cycle. I choose to have an abundant life, I choose LOVE, KINDNESS, RESPECT, FORGIVENESS AND JOY!…so help me God!