So… like everyone else, I sometimes get disappointed by people (and I disappoint some people sometimes too). It happens to everyone from time to time. Some disappointments are huge and can seem crushing, others are no big deal and we can just brush them off and quickly move on. Yep, it is unfortunately a fact and a part of life. Disappointments can be especially painful to bear when you expect so much more from the person in question. For instance, I was just talking with a friend about “falling in love” with people. We were talking about how certain virtues in some people make us feel like we have fallen in love with them. When I “fall in love” with a person (old or young, man or woman – not talking about romantic love here;)), it is so weird cos it’s such a strong feeling. It’s a wonderful feeling:). And the same way, when a person disappoints (thankfully this is not something that happens often), it can be so very painful… especially when you’ve “fallen in love” with them.
But then on the flip side, you have zero expectations from some people and then they just go and really surprise you! Just like you can fall in love with a person from afar i.e. before you even really get to know them, you can form certain (neutral or sometimes negative) opinions of a person from afar… so you may really not expect much from them, but then they surprise you by being so wonderful and so kind and so amazing! And it reminds you again that you truly cannot judge a book by its cover…. it works both ways – good and bad. And remember, sometimes a book on the whole can be good but it may have some unpleasant pages to swallow. So along those lines, I’m also reminded not to dismiss a person entirely because of some negative experiences I’ve had with them.
The point of my story is, please please please don’t give up on everyone(by little actions here and there) because of the experiences you’ve had with some people. Please, don’t let your experiences in life shape you negatively as a person… Strive to always be the best YOU that you can be…treating everyone with love, kindness and respect. Yes, you will sometimes be disappointed, but you will very often be pleasantly surprised:)!
Please, let your experiences, good and bad, shape you positively… like I always say, let them make you wiser as time goes by. We do ourselves a great disservice if we allow people/experiences turn us into negative, cynical people. We do ourselves (and others including several innocent people) harm, not good. It is a vicious cycle… We become mean to others, they become mean to us and to others as well, and the cycle goes on.
So let’s try to treat everyone we come in contact with with kindness, love and respect , whether we’ve been disappointed or not, and whether we’ve gotten to know them or not. It really does us good overall. And as a bonus, we get some wonderful wonderful surprises along the way:)! See Great Verses & Quotes
Much Love & Blessings,